Is it uncomfortable and difficult for you to love yourself, right now, as you are?
Do you find it hard to know what you really like?
What you really want?
Who you really are?
If so, imagine that you have just entered into an arranged marriage…
With yourself.
You didn’t choose this person to spend the rest of your days with.
But you do get to choose how the rest of your days with this person are going to be.
You can decide that you are going to love them or not.
One choice will bring you a great deal of happiness.
The other, not so much.
If you were in an arranged marriage, what would you have to do to fill it with love and happiness?
First, you’d need to decide you were going to love this person, no matter what.
This would require you to think loving thoughts about them deliberately and consistently.
Then, you’d want to get to know them.
What do they like to eat, read, or do?
What do they value?
What are their strengths?
What are their gifts?
What are their dreams?
You wouldn’t know all the answers to these questions in a day.
You’d be patient and take the time to watch and learn.
But the whole time you’d be loving them.
You’d see the negative, but you’d choose to accept their imperfections and love them anyway.
Because loving them would feel so much better than hating them.
And loving them would bring you happiness.
So, if you are just discovering yourself after years of not knowing who you are, think of it as an arranged marriage.
And if you are learning to love yourself after years of self-loathing, think of it as an arranged marriage.
You are going to be with you forever.
Decide today that you want to love yourself, regardless of all your flaws and shortcomings.
Because love feels so good and you absolutely deserve it.
And then, get learning all about you.
Because chances are, you will discover that you are the most perfect and amazing person for you to be with forever.
If you’d like some help learning how to love yourself unconditionally, contact me at jamelyn@jamelynstephan.com to schedule a free consultation.