What would happen if you decided to accept your sexual desire as perfect, exactly as it is right now?
When faced with that question panic can kick in.
“That is a terrible idea!” your brain screams.
It can’t even imagine why you would do that or what that would even look like.
You have so much evidence that your libido is anything but perfect.
Just ask your husband.
No, accepting your desire as it is right now is sexual suicide!
But what if you’re wrong?
Shaming yourself for your low desire has never created more desire for you.
Telling yourself you are broken has never created more desire for you.
Having sex because you feel like you are supposed to has never created more desire for you.
Focusing on how you are unworthy, flawed, or insufficient has never created more desire for you.
So, if trying to shame and blame yourself to a higher libido hasn’t worked, then maybe it is time to try something counterintuitive.
What if you truly decided to accept your sexual desire EXACTLY as it is right now?
“Nothing is wrong with me or my libido.”
“I am whole and complete as I am.”
“My sexual desire is perfect as it is.”
These thoughts may feel uncomfortable at first but, with practice, they will breed feelings of self-acceptance and self-love.
Then, from those emotions, you may find it really fun to see what sexual desire you can create just because you want to.