“His needs are more important than mine.”
You state this as a fact.
“The sky is blue. The grass is green. His needs are more important than mine.”
But this statement is not a fact.
It is just a thought.
I know you want to argue with me.
You have so much proof and the daily evidence can’t be ignored.
“His needs ARE more important than mine. Period!”
But, how do you feel when you believe your husband’s needs are more important than yours?
And how do you act towards your husband when you feel those negative emotions?
If your husband’s needs are truly more important than yours it is because you have made it so.
At some point you thought that believing his needs are more important than yours would be helpful to your marriage.
But it’s not.
At any time, you can choose to believe that your needs are your responsibility and his needs are his responsibility.
When you believe this, your needs become the most important needs for you to take care of.
Your husband’s needs become the most important needs for him to take care of.
Once each of you have taken care of your own needs, the two of you can get down to the business of just loving each other.